20 Questions to Rekindle and Deepen Your Relationship

Looking to rekindle your marriage and give it a bit of a spark? Drs. John and Julie Gottman, the go-to experts in marital stability, have some killer advice on using open and empathetic communication to rekindle the flames.

Here's a list of 20 insightful questions to ask each other, designed to deepen your connection and understanding. Perfect for a cozy night in, these questions are more than just conversation starters; they're a journey to the heart of your relationship.

1. Dreams and Aspirations: What's a dream you've never told me about?

2. Childhood Memories: What's your happiest childhood memory?

3. Daily Experiences: What was the highlight of your day?

4. Stress and Challenges: What's been on your mind lately, and how can I support you?

5. Joy and Happiness: What small things light up your day?

6. Personal Growth: What's a personal goal you have for the next year?

7. Values and Beliefs: What values matter most to you in our relationship?

8. Love Languages: How do you feel most loved and appreciated?

9. Relationship Goals: Where do you see us in five years?

10. Conflict Resolution: How can we get better at resolving our disagreements?

11. Emotional Needs: What makes you feel really supported by me?

12. Family Dynamics: How has your family shaped what you expect from our relationship?

13. Work and Career: What are your career aspirations?

14. Relaxation and Leisure: How do you like to unwind on the weekends?

15. Health and Wellness: How can we help each other stay healthy?

16. Fears and Insecurities: What fears keep you up at night?

17. Personal Achievements: What achievement are you super proud of?

18. Shared Experiences: What's your favorite memory with me?

19. Future Plans: Is there a place you dream of visiting together?

20. Personal Philosophy: What life lesson has profoundly affected you?

The Gottmans' approach is about more than just talking; it's about truly connecting and rekindling and deepening your marriage. Emotional intelligence, positive communication, and a focus on mutual understanding are the bedrock of their philosophy. From avoiding negative communication styles like 'The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse' to embracing conflict resolution and showing continuous affection, these principles are the secret sauce to a lasting, loving marriage.

So, next time you and your significant other are sharing a quiet moment, pull out one of these questions. You're not just chatting; you're laying down the building blocks for a stronger, more connected relationship. It's about creating a safe space for each other's dreams, fears, and everything in between. Here's to a deeper, more loving journey together!